“7 year Itch” Antidote

Today was the emotionally-tugging day that the film crew interviewed us about our relationship before/during/after ironman distance training.  When I meditate on my feelings I put them into words so that I can explain them to myself if I ever doubt.  Roger meditates by feeling and actions; when he does put into words it’s a summary of hours of feelings into a phrase.  It was hard for me to watch the film crew wanting him to explain more, but since I know him, I understand he just explained a lot.  Being expats together in Europe for 2 years & again transplants in the West Coast (away from family/childhood friends), I had plenty of focused time to get to know how he displays his affection and love. When you’ve been together for 7 years, married for almost 4, there are many layers that define how and why you feel a certain way about someone that it’s very difficult to put into words. Especially on camera, for a movie, for strangers.

How do you describe in an interview that we’ve grown together so much from who we were when we first met? How do you shape the audience understanding of why you love this person with every fiber of your being?

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A whole hearted effort

Marrying Bessy, I essentially gave her half my heart, like wise she in return….. together it makes a whole heart when two souls are as one.

The only time both of us set our personal best efforts is when we both raced / trained together.  If she is not there I show up physically ready but mentally missing, thinking why am I doing this? Recently I did the Bonita 5k, a decades old race on a PR style course.  She had to work, and as usual people ask me “where is she?” – yea that doesn’t help.  I didnt meet my goal… in fact I ran the same 5k time as I did in our tri club aquathlon 2 days ago. The swim really beat me up – but she was there, with me, and seeing her on each turn around of the run my pace picked up for some nice negative splits.  So I should be faster in an open 5k, but because she was not there, I mentally was not either.

When not having a great race, I know she is pushing hard, so I push harder.  Even if she passes me – which happened in Chicago  –  I do my best to support her in that push for the PR.  Now I am not going to use this as a complete excuse, as I have seen one partner in certain couples having absolute polarized fitness efforts from their significant other do well.  It makes me ponder what is it that they have?

As for the couple effect, I am pretty sure this is not only with us… local San Diego runner soul mates “MoBert” can be seen running their best when they are both on course.  How about other local pros, where recently Eric Lagerstrom’s win at Escape from Alcatraz (2015) with his girlfriend Maggie on the course coming in 5th. Here is a video of their post race experience:

Another local pro couple who happens to be a part of my tri club – I see perform well together is Luke McKenzie and Beth Gerdes. I seen Luke run well at silver strand  half marathon in 2014 and that day Beth happened to set a PR of 1:22.  Come 6 months later, Ironman Cairns, Beth flatted out but was at the finish to see Luke take the overall win. She has a great blog on family life and racing around the world: http://bethgerdes.com

It is kind of exciting and I am sure one day it will happen, that both a couple will take the overall wins.

Bessy and I will be on target to train and race together for a big race: the New York City Marathon.  We as a couple will be doing it for the Breast Cancer Foundation, so even  if we both don’t do well – they win (along with those dealing with the illness), but it will require your help via a small donation:

SDBikeCommuter.com discount initiative

The http://www.sdbikecommuter.com discount program is a non-profit initiative that promotes cycling to local sustainable businesses in San Diego. Inline with its slogan “Ride Local – Buy Local” businesses join the program to support green transportation of bicycle riding and encourage customers to bypass parking spot hunting normally done in a car.  A benefit to you, no toxic preservatives and transfats in the food like typical commercial chains use. No membership or special cards are needed, just remind the staff that you biked in to benefit from the 10% off your purchase*.  Join us on a tour of the booming local businesses on the program:

Look for the sign

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Battle of the Charities

It seems within the past 2 years, the theme of charity racing is popping up on your facebook, twitter feeds or emails.  A tactic using guerrilla marketing (aggressive) is trending so much that you wonder if the person is a friend true to the cause, or a sleazy salesman in disguise. The majority of us have limited funds; but if you don’t – donate away! A big reason for the rise is that many people are using charities to gain race entries.  So the likelihood of you having to choose between multiple friends’ charity campaigns sky rockets.  It can be conflicting as you don’t want to offend someone by donating to a competing cause and still want to remain friends.  All I can do is suggest guidelines and questions I ask myself:

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New job: “professional cyclist”

Yes, in quotes because no, not for bicycle racing, but as a bike messenger.  It consist of delivering depositions, bills, etc between law firms.  The pay is minimal – although I think it is a fair trade off for something that you look forward to doing everyday – no waiting for Friday for it to be all over and being the weekend.  Yes, I love Mondays!

Some inspiration was taken from the movies Quicksilver , Premium Rush, Line of Sight, and the USA network tv show Suits

Mike Ross in the show suits is a bike messenger who is hired as a lawyer on one of his deliveries thanks to his intelligence

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1st Alpine Ski Tour

I have downhill skied weekly (every winter) since I was a toddler until I got an injury in my teenage years…. and since prices for lift tickets kept going up, it just became a once a year thing.  Entering the endurance sports world / life outside of the 4-wheel motorized prison world, my perception has changed.  It is a 3-hour trip one-way to our closest slopes (you always hit LA / Vegas traffic).  Then when you get there, $60-80 for a one-day lift ticket… where you maybe get 5 runs in due to long lift lines.  Mind you, my a$$ hurts sitting in that chair… I just sat for 3 hours, and need to sit for a 15 minute ride, to go down 2 minutes, and sit another 3 hours back!? Hey this sounds like a desk job scenario.

And what if this situation happened? stuck on a chair lift!

No more I said… when one day I saw a couple going up the mountain slope, who told me about alpine touring.  It is basically cross country skiing up the mountain, then downhill skiing on the way down.  Never do you need to pay for a sit (err I mean lift) ticket again!  The mountains here allow this, because the climb up is so tiring you will want to buy some beverages or food at the bottom.  Here is a video explaining more:

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2014 in review

Thank you for following and visiting our blog in 2014!!  Your views and comments help us focus our writing, and get to know YOU better. WordPress posted our stats so I wanted to share with you. Here’s an excerpt:

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A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. This blog was viewed about 6,000 times in 2014. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take about 5 trips to carry that many people.

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