While there are many jokes poking fun at exercising Together not being efficient when you’re at different levels and have different goals, I liked these “Workout Ideas for Couples” about sharing this free time as a couple.
By syncing your exercise schedule you’re both free on the same times for healthy one-on-one time that every partnership needs. Effective exercise is kind of like a battle with yourself vs. laziness/sleep/burning calories/pushing past comfort zone. Each person reacts differently during that battle. Some are funny/pleasant and others are in the no thinking zone. It’s unfair to expect your partner to be at the same level, or have same ability as you at all.
Below are that article’s PROs for working out together. After I share how we push ourselves individually without feeling “neglected” during a workout.
- Safety. With someone else watching your form and being there to look out for you on isolated roads/trails; who cares more about your safety than your soulmate?
- A common interest. Instead of looking at simultaneous workouts as aggressive competition, focus on your goals, and be happy for the other person to reach his/her goals . The possibility for new, unique activities is endless and keeps things exciting.
- Motivation and support. Getting encouragement and praise from your partner is one of the best motivators. It’ll help both of you remain consistent and take care of one another.
- A deeper bond. Exercise produces chemicals in the brain that evoke feelings of happiness, reduce stress, and also increase arousal and libido. Men and women who exercise regularly report better (and more frequent) sex with their partners. (Tip: Sweaty bodies must shower, might as well save water…)
- Respect and pride. Taking care of your body and your health shows the person you care about that you want to be your best for them—and that you want to be around for years to come.
With that said, exercises should challenge each person and can’t always be shared due to schedule. Sometimes women (myself included as a newbie workout girlfriend) set this high expectation that if her partner isn’t by her side, having full conversations, or taking pictures – then he doesn’t want her there. Below are how we include aspects that work for both of us so we can adjust our attitudes and feel much better about exercising together!
- Set the same time of day for your workout, if possible. You’ll get up together/meet during the day, get endorphins at same time and free up the rest of the day’s schedule!
- Set a goal & estimated time to be done. This gives the workout structure: Start and End location, meeting time, including what to EAT after! Each person should have a watch, a phone, and house keys this avoids lots of issues. If you exercise together, communicate how you’re feeling throughout & a time to meet back should you need to turn back. Looped course for cycling, running, swimming is great, because if one wants to push multiple laps, it doesn’t completely lose the person doing one lap. For point to point course, Roger will make meeting points along the route. If he arrives early he’ll do laps adding miles instead of just waiting, until I meet up; then off to the next point.
- Complete some of the workout solo. This will make the section that is together special, and gives each person time to collect thoughts/push with no distractions.
- Create a Pre-Workout and/or Post-Workout affectionate gesture. It can be as small as a smile & simultaneous starting the Garmin. As soon as a together workout is done, we high five or kiss to congratulate for not quitting early. Now I really miss that if we workout separately! If you exercise apart, text each other when you finished your workout, it will keep you connected.
- Set a specific monthly goal aka sign up for a race. This will give your goals and workouts structure as well, so that you can earn the desired finish time and performance. On race day, you will be a part of the experience already, even if it’s not for your race.